Sunday, July 25, 2010

Freedom at Fifty

I have a few friends that are on this freedom ride with me, but I realize that there is a great deal of others out there as well.  We are coming to terms with much of what we were taught growing up, acknowledging that it  just doesn't apply these days.  We are also learning how to make and follow our own paths, and the blessing is that we are at an age where we can do just that. We don't care if we fail, because we don't see it as failure, we see it as another part of the journey.  No we are not our mothers, and they are not their mothers.  I guess it is the natural progression of things, because when our daughters reach our age they will not be like us. 

My daughter has always admired that I was different than the mothers of many of her friends.  I was always a bit radical, non-judgmental, and a  non-conformist.  It often times got me in trouble, but now it really works for me, because there is no trouble to get  into.  These days it is either my way or no way.  Of course I am not on this course alone, my Heavenly Father is right there with me, and I am not working outside the realm of what He wants for me, and if I do, he lovingly reels me back in.

 I no longer buy into the hype of the "American Dream", because it is designed to enslave you.  It keeps you wanting more and more, regardless of how blessed you have been.  The dream keeps you in dept and I have been there more than once, but not any more.

 Turning fifty is so very liberating to me. The journey of letting go of all of the beliefs that have been forced upon me, that usually never served me because they were not mine to begin with.  I do understand why they were bestowed upon me.  Our parents and teachers do the best that they can, because they can only give what they have been given and hopefully what they have learned along the way.  That is also what we will do as parents.  Just hopefully as well learn better we do better and teach our children better, even if it does contradict what we first taught them.

 There was a time when many working people believed real estate investment, "rental property", was the way to secure your future, especially in your retirement years.  That is no longer the case.  I was talking to my aunt on the phone about a week ago, and she made a reference to this same belief. She told me to forget investing in real estate, and to just put my money in the bank, because it becomes more trouble than it is worth.  I learned this long ago about rental property, and tried to teach it to my father. That turning it over after  5-10 years was best, before the repairs start to suck the life out of you.  He is from a generation that believes in property ownership, and I believe in monetary ownership.  This is just one of those lessons.  There are so many more.  Again, that generation was parented by a generation that were not allowed to own much of anything, therefore they taught ownership to their children.

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Getting to Know Someone

So often we meet people and fall in love and really don't know much about them at all.  I have been guilty of that as well.  We judge them on how they are in the present and how they treat us during this courtship. But how much do we really know about a person. How long does it take to really get to know someone?    Where did they come from?  Why did they leave?  Yes there are ways now to get a background check on someone, but most of us don't do this because we all have black marks in our history.  We don't want to judge, because we don't want to be judged.  So how far do you dig into a person's background to know them?  Often times what is on paper doesn't give you a good idea of who that person is, how they think, what they love, what their passions are, how they feel about their family, do they have a conscious, what are their basic values and beliefs.  However, if there are repetitive actions on paper, then you can get an idea about them.

 Unless they obviously have a criminal background. We then know that all crimes are not equal.  Having a great deal of background information can sometimes help and sometimes not.  How do you know when you know enough about someone or have enough information on someone.  How far would you want someone to check into your background?  How would you like to be judged by what is on paper?

 In some situations a background check maybe necessary, because there are quite a few people that are living secret lives, and some of those secrets can be dangerous.  Since we live in such a global society and travel is so easy across continents, you don't know how far a person would run to get away from a shady past.  However, I don't believe that this intensity is necessary in most cases. If we listen and follow our instincts then we would probably be able to avoid a great deal of potential dangerous or hazardous relationships.  I realize that we can't go around with this type of fear and step out in life on faith. What is your take on this?             How do you keep yourself safe in the dating world?

Cultural Diversity

What is Cultural diversity? Per Wikipedia, ' There is a general consensus among mainstream anthropologists that humans first emerged in Africa about two million years ago.  Since then they have spread throughout the world, successfully adapting to widely differing conditions and to periodic cataclysmic changes in local and global climate. The many separate societies that emerged around the globe differed markedly from each other, and many of these differences persist to this day .'

 I have always felt the need to seek out and preserve the various cultures, traditions, religions, and languages of the many people of this world.  I find the indigenous cultures even more exciting.  That is probably because I grew up in a society where we feel the need to  fill our homes with things, our pockets with money, and our time with activities in order to fulfill the desire for the American Dream.  I think that dream has changed for quite a few people these days. Preserving the various cultures is a reminder that there are a countless ways to realize your dreams.