Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Getting to Know Someone

So often we meet people and fall in love and really don't know much about them at all.  I have been guilty of that as well.  We judge them on how they are in the present and how they treat us during this courtship. But how much do we really know about a person. How long does it take to really get to know someone?    Where did they come from?  Why did they leave?  Yes there are ways now to get a background check on someone, but most of us don't do this because we all have black marks in our history.  We don't want to judge, because we don't want to be judged.  So how far do you dig into a person's background to know them?  Often times what is on paper doesn't give you a good idea of who that person is, how they think, what they love, what their passions are, how they feel about their family, do they have a conscious, what are their basic values and beliefs.  However, if there are repetitive actions on paper, then you can get an idea about them.

 Unless they obviously have a criminal background. We then know that all crimes are not equal.  Having a great deal of background information can sometimes help and sometimes not.  How do you know when you know enough about someone or have enough information on someone.  How far would you want someone to check into your background?  How would you like to be judged by what is on paper?

 In some situations a background check maybe necessary, because there are quite a few people that are living secret lives, and some of those secrets can be dangerous.  Since we live in such a global society and travel is so easy across continents, you don't know how far a person would run to get away from a shady past.  However, I don't believe that this intensity is necessary in most cases. If we listen and follow our instincts then we would probably be able to avoid a great deal of potential dangerous or hazardous relationships.  I realize that we can't go around with this type of fear and step out in life on faith. What is your take on this?             How do you keep yourself safe in the dating world?

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